“I’m stuck in my relationship. Instead of him building with me, he is always finding a reason to tear me apart.” “I am not happy in the relationship I have invested eleven years of my life into”. “My heart wants to let go but my mind keeps telling me to hang in there for a while.”

These were cries of a young lady who appeared on the Steve Harvey Show. Truth is, choosing the right partner for yourself can be difficult but not impossible. Keep reading to learn a few tips on choosing and dating the right partner for you.

Move on

When you pick a wrong person in a relationship , there comes a time when you have to unpick them. You don’t always have to stay in a broken relationship especially when you’re unhappy. Choose to go to a place where you can smile and be happy again. Sticking around a negative relationship will only affect you more than it may affect the other person because they may have moved on long ago.

Stop the blame game

Always try to take the blame off yourself and focus on growth and improving your standard of living rather than dwelling on the hate and resentment in your relationship. The wrong person will make you feel like there is something wrong with you while the right people will make you feel wanted and loved.

Proper upbringing

So many people, especially men, did not have the father figure who could have taught them how to be right by their women. However, most people try their best to learn to do the right thing. Real men treat their women like a queen and the reverse is true.

Stop this

Stop dealing with people who do not know all the qualities of building stronger bonds with other people. Spend time with people who are ready to learn even though they are not the best of lovers. Stop wasting your time on the wrong ones. Stop collecting red flags, and remember that if for any reason you choose to leave, you need to walk away with your crown and pride intact.