In the end we discover that to love and to let go can be the same thing. -Jack Kornfield

I recently checked out the meaning of the word Sneaky link. I must confess it was not a pleasant definition to me at all . It then dawned on me that a lot of relationships these days are more tuned towards that definition. Well, thanks to Tik Tok I now have a new vocab up my sleeves. But genuinely, the word disturbed me a bit. What if all these relationships and situationships that people find themselves in could be corrected? What if we demanded more from the bare minimum efforts we got from our partners?

The Ultimatum

It was just yesterday that I finished watching the new television series on Netflix titled, The Ultimatum: Marry or Move On. One thing that struck me after watching this series was that you may be wanting to spend the rest of your life with someone who has an entirely different plans about you. It will interest you to know that people are in relationships for very funny reasons and if you do not define the relationship, you might end up disappointed.

Define Situationships

So what are situationships? Well, for a lay man’s definition, I will say it is a relationship in which people are in to have fun without any strings attached. Perhaps, if you can control the series of emotions being thrown about in this kind of relationship, it might not be a situationship afterall. The point I am trying to make is that most situationships are unplanned. And like anything unplanned, they are headed nowhere.

Decide and choose

It is important to ask the right questions and to be sure if you want to be the sneaky link whose relationship is complicated, or whether you want be in a serious relationship. The choice is entirely yours. Often more than not, communication is the barrier between the two parties involved. Sometimes you need to communicate how you feel in order to get what you want out of any form of relationship.

Differences

Sneaky links just meet up to have fun and after that they go their separate ways. People in real relationships have a goal in mind. They want to spend time with their partners for the long haul. They want to know what their partners are up to at each point in time. They communicate their feelings to each other and they make sure they are being heard.

Ask questions

So before you hop on to another situationship, be sure to ask the right questions. If you are okay with being the sneaky link then surely go ahead and have fun. On the other hand, if you want something serious, you can go ahead and demand for it. It should not be that difficult. Most people who are not serious end up giving up while the serious ones always stick around. So it’s always up to one partner to decide and define the relationship.

Define the relationship

That brings us to the word ultimatum. Giving people ultimatums does not make you a selfish person. It makes you a bold individual who knows exactly what they want out of their precious life. So yes, give the other person an ultimatum if you value your time and peace of mind. A good friend once told me she gave an ultimatum and the other person involved took some time off to think through her offer. After some days, they were back to the drawing table on whether to take their relationship serious. Today, they are married and fully invested in each other.

Feedback

My dearest reader, I hope you took a cue or two from this article. You will therefore have to go back and check whether you are in a situationship or in a romantic relationship. This will guide your decisions further and give you the power to set things right from now on. I’m rooting for you as always. Be sure to send in your feedback on how you or someone you know is dealing with a situationship at the moment, in the comments section below. I’d love to hear from you.