“To realize one’s destiny is a person’s only obligation.” -The Alchemist
Growing up can be tough. A lot of people easily fall along the way and die off. That is also fine. We all get down sometimes. There is always going to be some growing to do once you exist on this earth. Growth, to me, comes from picking up the lessons as you go and developing yourself into a fine gem as you grow. I believe these few tips will guide you in your journey of being a 20s:
No one will hand you the keys
I have realized that no matter what you do, some things will be kept out of the known. It is part of growing up. We can not have all the answers to whatever we want to know. There is beauty in unraveling the mysteries of life. Constant learning and pushing oneself is the key to wisdom. If you always look to people for answers, you may get the wrong answers, not because the person lied, but perhaps because their life is different from yours. Sometimes your journey has a different key to your own path.
Motivate yourself to grow
People can motivate you all the time. However, it behoves on you to keep building and motivating yourself to do more. Like they say, you can force the horse to the river but you can never force it to drink, so can nobody motivate you if you’re not ready to step into action. Embrace the fact that things will be difficult and then work towards achieving better results for yourself.
Learn from people’s experiences
It will surprise you to know how much knowledge you can obtain from other people’s experiences in life. Although their path may be different from yours, it can guide you into knowing what to do when you are at the crossroads. Be careful not to let their experiences stop you from going the same path; like learning to swim or climbing the mountain. They may have almost drowned or fallen off the cliff but you may survive. Just make sure you pick the right lessons that can help you to do better.
Guard your heart
This is probably the most painful and difficult part of growing up. Not guarding the heart may turn you into a bitter person if you’re mostly hurt by what others do to you. Becoming bitter will only turn you into a beast. Learn to forgive and move on quickly if you must. In a nutshell, choose your friends wisely and watch people’s reactions more than their words. Whatever you do, you will definitely get hurt once you are alive therefore keep your heart safe from becoming embittered.
Stay out of unhealthy competition
Growing up and seeing all the nice things others have can be a very tempting stage. What if you cannot afford what others have? What if what you own is also someone’s must-have? You see, the whole point of unhealthy competition is that it breeds a lot of social vices which one can easily fall into. Stay in your lane if you must. That is to say, live within your means.
Be patient with yourself
Often times, we are in a rush to be the next Barack Obama, Kim Kardashian, Floyd Mayweather, Oprah Winfrey, and the likes. In his book, Outliers, Malcom Gladwell states that, “I will argue that there is something profoundly wrong with the way we make sense of success…”. He further went on to say, “The people who stand before kings may look like they did it all by themselves. But in fact they are invariably the beneficiaries of hidden advantages and extraordinary opportunities and cultural legacies that allow them to learn and work hard and make sense of the world in ways others cannot”. This goes to show that everyone has things working out for them within a particular time and for a purpose. Yours is on its way.